Situation
Let me run this situation by you guys and see what you think.
A woman, let’s call her Michelle. Michelle is married to Michael. Michelle has a best friend, who just happens to be a male. We’ll call him Will. Michael is aware of Will. He knows Will although they only met at his wedding but he knows that Michelle and Will are good friends and they talk fairly regularly. He knows about Will’s poor decision making when it comes to women. (Will has ummm baby mama drama from 2 or 3 different women).
One day Will (remember he’s the friend) decides to post a questionable comment on Michelle’s facebook page. Michelle sees it and immediately removes it for a few reasons. First, it’s questionable and could cause drama. The comment was something to the effect of “MY LOVE” and that’s it. Nothing else. (I can’t say exactly what it was but it’s Michelle thought that people would see it and the he say-she say would start and it would cause unnecessary drama.) Second, Will rarely ever post things on her wall but always posts suggestive material on his. For example one status message said “Which one of my female friends wants to cum tonight?” <– Yes cum was spelled exactly like that and yes Michael saw that one day and asked his wife, what’s up with that?
Michelle sent Will a message saying that she removed his post and although she is thankful for the love, she couldn’t allow that message to be on her page. In fact, before she could take it down, two of her good friend’s saw it and sent her an email asking her what that was about.
Will then goes on to say something about her husband, Michael, being insecure because he’s not letting Michelle have any male friends. But Michael has female friends and he doesn’t care if Michelle has male friends as long as she introduces them to him. And vice versa. Not that it makes a big difference nowadays but you get the point. Yet still, Michael could be insecure.
So what do you think?
Did Michelle do the right thing?
Is her husband Michael insecure?
Is Michelle insecure?
Was Will’s message innocent?
What would you have done if you were her?
(I’ll put my thoughts in the comments)
Hmm, Michael is not insecure, he has every right to as wtf is going on with this dude.
Michelle did the right thing by erasing it and should have deleted him when he first started acting all potential Fatal Attraction.
Word to Sixty. I am not even married yet and I had a friend who I had an interest in and at the time he wasn’t interested but I charged it to the game and we remained cool. Fast forward a year later when I started dating my boo and all of a sudden he’s all chatty on my FB page and making lil comments on my pictures. My dude wasn’t feeling it (and truth be told I wasn’t either since he was getting borderline bitchy with it) and so I defriended him. I respect people’s boundaries. He didn’t want to respect mine so…poof be gone.
He was hating because he didn’t want me but when someone else did…hateration.
Michelle tolerated his ass way longer than I would have.
Will sounds suspect as h3ll and I wouldn’t trust his a$$. He needs to go on wit himself
It kind of sounds like Michelle has some other stuff going on as well…if it meant nothing why did she delete it?
some slick shyt done on purpose and for that he would have to get cut back.. BFF or not.. a true BFF would NEVER do that bullshyt.. and Michelle needs new friends period.. and if she continues to entertain that she deserves all the drama she gets with it..
oh yeah, answers:
F: So what do you think?
M: See previous note.
F: Did Michelle do the right thing?
M: Sort of, she’s just mitigating right now. She needs to be a blackberry bold, and give sidekick the wind. He might take it hard…
F: Is her husband Michael insecure?
M: Not enough info to tell… we don’t really know how he feels about everything. From what I see, he has a right to be concerned. I would be too. As a matter of fact, I hate situations where girls have male BFFs who are gay… cuz then they use that as an excuse to cross more lines… “Baby, it’s ok for him to smack my ass or see me change… he’s gay anyway… hi hi hi”….. GTFOH.
F: Is Michelle insecure?
M: ummmm… not sure. I think it’s concerning that she doesn’t mind doing the damage control. It looks like there’s more trouble coming because he’s getting bolder with his statements.
F: Was Will’s message innocent?
M: No, it was “game with deny-ability”. Like when you say “hey! we should go to my house, just kidding… lol.” You throw that “j/k” and “lol” in there in case you get rejected. We’re all grown, we know what’s goin on.
F: What would you have done if you were her?
M: depends on what I want…
I’m with everyone.
Michelle needs a new male BFF… unless she wants to do damage control for a loooooooong time.
Here’s the question I have. We all see that Will is trouble. Why isn’t Michelle tired of doing damage control? What’s goin on with her? I’m not saying it’s just her, but it seems she’s kinda entertaining it.
am I wrong? please correct me.
@1969 Jan 1 homie. We still got like 6+ weeks left in the year……….
Yo Homie….can we get an OSAG update or are you just waiting for January 1st?
Will is a troublemaking jerk who doesn’t respect Michelle’s marriage. She needs to get new friends.
I agree with y’all. It was some slick sh!t done on purpose. There had to be a motive behind it especially with it being posted on the Wall. Now if it was a note, that’s one thing but on the wall means that he wanted it to be seen and either he was trying to test her or start some sh!t. It has nothing to do with insecurities. I think that’s an argument Will made up to cause my drama. You know they say misery loves company. I asked Michelle more about their history too.
I 2nd SLB’s sentiments.
If it was my man who had the friend who did some scandalous ish like that, I’d be looking at him like “whats up w/your friend” and if it was my friend, I’d expect my man to question me the same. Will ain’t her friend, sounds like he is jealous or has some feelings for Michelle.
That’s some slick sh!t.
Respect my marriage, homie. If the shoe was on the other foot and Will was involved in a serious relationship, he knows full damn well he wouldn’t want that type of message on his wall.
I don’t see any insecurities going on. In fact, if Will was a trifling female, I’d be giving him the side eye as well. I think every partner would question why a particular friend is around.